Meaning, with herself, right?
I’m afraid that I do understand what that woman is saying, truth be told.
For me, that brings up two important questions: How do I talk to myself? and “How do I treat myself?
Writer Heather Kopp says, “Apart from God, the relationship we have with ourselves is the most constant, lasting, and influential one we’ll ever have.”
Is it any wonder why it’s so important for followers of Jesus to put so much emphasis on self-care? Jesus calls us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. I take that to mean that even though I know my faults and weaknesses and shortcomings all too well, I still do right by myself, still do what’s best, still respect and honor myself.
When I intentionally talk to myself in an encouraging, compassionate way, I often realize how much of the time I (un)intentionally talk to myself in ways that can bring me down.
More than once I have asked myself: “If that voice in my head were incarnated into a person—what would our relationship look like? What do I put up with that I shouldn’t? How might I set better boundaries about how I let myself think and behave toward myself?”
Since that voice in my head doesn’t seem to want to be reformed nor leave any time soon, I need to be especially nice to that part of myself, regularly and intentionally telling him, “Look my friend, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,” (Yep, that’s straight from Roman 8:1.)
Now when I speak like that — wow! — I find myself more readily listening for the voice from God that says, “Hey there my son. By the way, I’m really proud of you. I love you. I created you in my image. Let’s do some good things today — you and I.”
… Let me tell you, I really like hearing that voice.
Who doesn’t? It’s the voice of the Lord!