Here are the things Edmondson has learned about church drama. All 10 are right on. My responses in red follow each of Edmondson’s comments …
Not all rumors are true. Most aren’t. Rumors are dainty morsels that sink deep into one’s heart. Proverbs 18:8. NLT
People like to expand on what they know. Or think they know. But even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. Proverbs 17:28
There are consequences to sin. Even though there is grace. Some confuse that. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Galatians 6:7
Some people enjoy telling others “the good stuff”. With practice, some have even learned to make things bigger and “better” than they really are. We twist that and say, “Well, I admit this is third hand. I’m just telling you what I know. Most of it is no doubt true. Can you believe it? Please just keep this between you and me.”
Gossip destroys. Sometimes forever.
There is usually more to the story than what you know. But it may or may not be what your mind stretches it to be. Because most of us never take the time to truly listen we will really never know what is inside another person’s heart. You can’t really claim to love someone, if you never truly take the time to listen.
Some of the juiciest gossip is disguised as a prayer request. And this, my friends, is just plain old mean. Don’t get prayer mixed up with this kind of bologna! I’m just sure God would be thrilled.
Thumper’s mom was right. If you can’t something nice about someone, don’t say anything at all.
The only reliable source is the direct source. Jesus said we will never understand true community, true reconciliation, until we leave your gift on the altar and go directly to the person. One to one; Face to face; Looking directly into the eyes of the person with whom you need to deal.