One of my favorite bloggers Seth Godin gets it in his words below on how those around us can read us. They know there's a lot lying beneath our cute little iceberg.
Reminds me of James chapter 3 when James writes that not many should aspire to be teachers because they will be judge more severely. And, 90 percent of the time, that judgment comes from the actions our students, our parishioners, our clients, our followers, and our patients see during the week and not from what is said from the pulpit, lectern, business deal or awards ceremony.
We no longer care what you say. We care a great deal about what you do.
If you charge for hand raking but use a leaf blower when the client isn't home
If you sneak into an exercise class because you were on the wait list and it isn't fair cause you never get a bike
If you snicker behind the boss's back
If you don't pay attention in meetings
If you argue with a customer instead of delighting them
If you copy work and pass it off as your own
If you shade the truth a little
If you lobby to preserve the unsustainable status quo
If you network to get, not to give
If you do as little as you can get away with
…then we already know who you are.