In times of conflict you have to ask the right questions

When I talk with pastors and Christian leaders it is rare that I don’t hear about this or that conflict in which they find themselves.  In one recent talk with a pastor who was telling me about a major conflict in his church where he is receiving some sharp criticism, I asked him to consider these 5 questions as a way to start resolving and moving beyond his conflict:

What impact have my actions had on you? 

How have I hurt you? 

Do you think there should be any consequences? 

What can I do to make things right? 

How would you like me to change my behavior?

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