If you know me well, you know one of my strengths is that I’m adaptable. As my Strengths Finder 2.0 assessment says: “You live in the moment. You don’t see the future as a fixed destination. Instead, you see it as a place that you create out of the choices that you make right now. And so you discover your future one choice at a time. That doesn’t mean that you don’t have plans. You do. But this theme of Adaptability does enable you to respond willingly to the demands of the moment even if they pull you away from your plans. Unlike some, you don’t resent sudden requests or unforeseen detours. You expect them. … Indeed, on some level you actually look forward to them.”
Adaptability is one of the aspects that plays well into my pastoral role. I’m grateful for that, but thank goodness I married a strong planner. My wife’s strong planning side has saved my back side more times than I can begin to even know!
As most of us learn along the way, our strength usually is our weakness. I’ve been known to continue looking at my options after I’ve beat the thing to death. If, say, I’ve decided to buy a Hyundai, do I really have to drive back to the Honda dealer one more time, just in case I might have missed something or to just talk with Salesman Joe, who I discovered also has an uncle in Indianapolis, just like I do? Do Salesman Joe and really have to sit down for a cup of coffee, just because I happen to like him?
For crying out loud, the answer is a resounding: “No!”
As I’ve gotten older, I having learned … and am still learning … what you probably learned long ago. There rarely is such a thing as a perfect decision. Sometimes I fear making the wrong call so I hold off saying “yes” or “no.” That’s especially true of saying “no” for fear of missing out.
But truth be told, life is too short and stalling is too stressful to do that. So it can be very liberating to me to just make the call and trust that God will work things out, as Romans 8:28 says.