Not so your relational intelligence. Author Ken Sande calls relational intelligence “the ability to discern emotions and interests in yourself and others, to interpret them in light of God’s Word, and to then use this insight to manage your responses and relationships constructively.”
Of course you have to work at it, but God designed us to grow in relational wisdom as he transforms us day by day (Romans 12:2, Ephesians 4:22-24, 2 Peter 1:3-7)
To think about growing in relational wisdom, start asking yourself some questions:
Two very simple questions: What is true? What is wise?
Expanded a bit:
Self-aware: What am I feeling? Why? What am I tempted to do? What should I do?
Other-aware: How are others feeling? Why? How is my behavior affecting them?
God-aware: Where is God in all of this? What has he done for you? What does he promise? How can I best trust and follow him with this situation?
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